When I was growing up, people often told me that I was “too sensitive” and “too emotional.”
I became filled with so much shame around vulnerability that I became a master of stuffing down all my feelings, fears, and needs. I also avoided all situations that put me at risk of emotional exposure because I was scared that people would judge me and kick me out of the cool kids club.
Fast forward to today…where I make my whole living from feeling my feelings (and teaching other people to do the same.)
Not only do I know how to feel my way through anxiety, fear, rage, grief, and guilt…but I know how to express them to other people in effective and helpful ways.
I’ve learned how to take up space without being pushy.
I’ve learned how to express my feelings without getting overwhelmed by them.
I’ve learned how to ask for help without being needy.
I’ve learned how to stand my ground without being a total b*tch.
In other words, I learned the art of vulnerability. And as a result, I have deeply meaningful, authentic, and just downright AMAZING relationships with everyone in my life; even (and especially) with the people who used to trigger the hell out of me.
I also have better mental health, self-esteem, and self-acceptance.
And once I understood how many amazing benefits vulnerability brought to my own life, I started teaching it to my tribe. In my program, Divine Living, I help big hearted high-achievers like you embrace vulnerability, build deeper relationships, and create a sense of belonging and community.
In the early days of this journey, one of the questions I get asked the most is:
“Caitlin, how vulnerable should I let myself be?” Like, I get that it’s good to share my feelings sometimes, but what and how much, exactly, should I really share?” And can I really share these things with my boss/husband/client/daughter without it coming back to bite me?
Well, I’ve got a really helpful, practical answer for you.
In this episode, I’m sharing with you the 3 factors to consider before practicing vulnerability. Once you consider these 3 factors, you’ll know exactly when it’s helpful to be vulnerable, when it’s not, and how vulnerable you should be with different people in your life.