Are you feeling a bit stuck because, despite all your hard work, you don’t feel a sense of fulfilment?
You know what happiness means to you—but it’s always just a little out of reach?
Well, don’t sweat it. Not only is it a pretty common experience, it’s easier to get what you want than you think—you just have to believe you already have it.
Maybe you’re thinking “Arg. Not another, ‘just be positive’ pep talk.” Nope. It’s so much more than that. But it does take some practice—so let’s get to it!
The universe is listening. What are you saying?
You may have already heard about the law of attraction—the idea that the energy you put out into the world is a message to the Universe about what you want in return.
And the Universe matches that frequency of energy and sends it right back to you.
If your energy is low—you spend your time missing an ex that never even really made you happy, or you’re resentful because you’re not getting recognition at a job you don’t even like—the Universe will keep sending you those low frequency experiences. You’re stuck!
To attract what you want, you need to operate on the same vibration of energy you want returned to you, as if you already have it.
Inspirational speaker and author Esther Hicks puts it simply, “In the same way that your radio tuner must be set to match the frequency of the broadcasting station you desire to hear, the vibrational frequency of your Being must match the frequency of your desire.”
The law of attraction reminds me of a grade school playground. Any grade-schooler can run out onto the playground—a little bundle of happy, playful energy—karate-chopping their way through recess like they’re the coolest little ninja in town. They assume everybody will like them, so everybody does.
They tell that mini-universe of the playground they are IT—the go-to for recess good-times—because they believe it. They feel it.
And before you know it, they’re surrounded by likeminded buddies—ready to karate-chop along with them, reinforcing and nurturing that high frequency energy.
They attract the same energy they put out.
Matching your desires
Playground stakes might be a bit lower than in adult life, but the concept is the same.
To get what you want in life, you have to first realize the thoughts, feelings, behaviors and beliefs you’d experience if your desires were already a reality. Then live it. Match that level of energy and the universe will get the message and send it back to you.
Here’s a simple exercise to help you become an energetic match for your desires.
Close your eyes and take a deep breath. Now, imagine yourself living your ideal life, working at your dream job or in a happy relationship. Whatever it is—it’s a done deal.
Now, ask yourself:
How do I feel?
Do you feel a sense of relief that you no longer have to deal with the stress of settling? Do you feel a sense of pride and confidence for accomplishing your career goals? What actions might your new confidence encourage you to take?
How would I treat others?
Now that you’ve manifested your desires, would you be more likely to help others make their’s a reality? Would you be more generous? Patient? Friendly?
What would others say about me?
Imagine people in your life that you admire and care about saying positive things about what you’ve accomplished and how it makes you feel.
How would I hold myself?
Imagine how might you walk down the street. Focus on the details. Would you stand taller? Smile and make eye contact with others? Would you dress differently?
How would I take on new challenges?
Would the feeling of fulfillment and confidence make you more likely to say “yes” to new opportunities? Maybe even seek them out? Would you be willing to take a risk and get rid of a negative presence in your life to make room for what you really want and create your dream life?
Now that you’ve experienced how you will feel and the things you will do once you have what you want, jump in. Feel those feelings. Do those things. It might take some practice at first, but keep at it and you’ll catch on quickly.
There’s no time like the present to tell the universe, “Look, I’m ready!”
My manifestation story
For the last few months, I’ve been asking the Universe to bring me clients that gave me more energy than they took from me. The kind that show up, are open to change, do the work, and commit to progress. But those clients just didn’t seem to be coming my way.
I met several prospective clients who wanted the world to change for them, or who wanted to give up and play the victim.
One client was particularly tough. And he was my highest paying client. By far.
But he drained my energy. He made commitments he didn’t keep. He often canceled last minute, only to call me non-stop during the week with a crises.
At the time, I didn’t have the resources to cut ties with him. So I held on, and the struggle to find my ideal clients continued.
But, finally, the frustration of working with him became greater than my fear of losing the money.
So I quit him.
Then, I told the universe, “I’ve created the space, time, and energy for better clients. I’m ready to rock people’s world who are ready to do the work.”
I visualized what it would be like if I had the clients I wanted. l felt the confidence I’d have, knowing the value I was providing.
I’d smile, knowing the work we’d do in our session was going to change their lives.
I imagined specific clients walking out with of my office with a skip in their step, hopeful about their lives again for the first time in a long time.
I’d appreciate myself more, recognizing my natural gifts for helping others.
I felt the relief of no longer chasing after clients for money. And I’d only work with those who valued my commitment to their growth.
So, I aligned with that frequency in my thoughts and actions.
I brought confidence and clarity to my introduction sessions with new clients. A clear conviction that I’d change their lives. I also made them commit verbally and in writing to do the work.
I didn’t do anything else differently. My marketing stayed the same. But the next day, I got an amazing new client. And another the day after that. And the day after that.
The moment I told the universe I was ready for the clients I wanted to work with by clearing the space for them and taking a leap of faith, my client goals manifested.
So, do you know what you want? Are ready to get it? Close your eyes. Take a deep breath … and manifest!
For an easy first step, share it with us in the comments below! Tell us what you’re going to attract and that mentality and moves you’ll adopt to get you there.
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